I've been in a relationship with a guy for 26 months. It's a long distance relationship. He is in Indonesia and I'm in Turkey. We didn't mind about the time zone. We appreciated and supported each other. We didn't have any problems in our relationship, but the problem was relationship itself.

Months ago my friend told me about Ust. Felix siaw's book, Udah Putusin Aja! (Let's break up!). This book is all about boy-girl or man-woman relationships in Islam. It says relationships before marriage between man-woman are haraam. Why haraam? Because they lead you to zina.

I said, but how could we're doing zina since we're thousand miles away?

This book has the answer of my question.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Allaah has decreed for every son of Adam his share of zina, which he will inevitably commit. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of tongue is speaking, one may wishing and desire, and the private parts confirm that or deny it."

We might zina through eyes, heart or tongue. For example, when we're skypee-ing or sending photos, I saw him, it's zina of the eyes. Actually it's Ok as long as without any desires on it. But, when someone fell in love, they forgot about it.

"Tapi aku mencintainya. Tiara masih tetap bisa mencintai Allah meskipun dia pacaran denganku. Toh, cinta di hatinya masih tetap untuk Dia."

Miftakh menghela napas panjang. "Sekarang aku tanya, bagaimana jika seseorang yang sangat kamu cintai, ternyata mencintai pria lain?" Atau, dekat dengan pria lain?"

"Tentu saja, aku akan cemburu."

"Begitu pula dengan Dia. Allah pun akan sangat cemburu ketika seseorang yang mencintai-Nya malah memiliki cinta lain yang tidak halal di hati orang tersebut. Meeskipun hanya sedikit." Jelas Miftakh.

(Udah Putusin Aja, page 166)

The story is about a girl who has a relationship with a boy and she says she also loves Allah. Then her friend, Miftakh says, "If you love someone, and someone you loved loves another man. How do you feel?" "I'm jealous." Then so does Allah. Allah really jealous when someone who loves Him has haraam love though it's little.

Our societies sometimes judge us for being single. Actually, it's Ok being single since it doesn't break the law.It's not wasting your time for unimportant things, drama and so on. You could focus on your goals, then one day if you are ready to marry her and it will be a happy ending.